Divulgence of an Afican girl

“Quvenzhané Wallis Study” - Sam Spratt {contemporary artist figurative beautiful female african-american black girl #naturalhair afro child actress portrait painting} <3 Adorable !!:

 Artwork by Sam Spratt – “Quvenzhané Wallis Study”

They made me feel guilty for being a girl
I was told to cover my body.
For it can seduce the boys.
Wear long skirts, else am a slut
They taught me shame


I felt guilty of what I never understood
I silenced myself…my opinion was not needed in my life
Be disciplined!
Be something you’re not so you’ll be respected in the society
Don’t do that in public, you can do it inside
I never understood why my mother cared so much about the society and their standards
I got to understand that it was a general thing
For my friends had similar problems
We could never express ourself
We should have no desires
We silenced ourself
Don’t show any skin..it will seduce a man to sin.
If you’re raped..it’s your fault.
But I wanted to be free like the boys
If I were a boy…I’ll say
I’ll have a say in my life
I’ll have desires,dreams and wants
For my dreams must not be bigger than a man’s
I have to be a certain way for a man to respect me
Without a man’s respect ..I am nothing
This my body.. I fear for,
No one should notice me
I was taught that my body itself is a sin and I must tame it.

©Funke Olotu

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12 thoughts on “Divulgence of an Afican girl

  1. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie said “We teach girls shame. “Close your legs. Cover yourself.” We make them feel as though being born female they’re already guilty of something. And so, girls grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire. They grow up to be women who silence themselves. They grow up to be women who cannot say what they truly think. And they grow up — and this is the worst thing we do to girls — they grow up to be women who have turned pretense into an art form.”

    Your poem describes the problem with the myopic society…”patriarchy”…our limitation is not our downfall…beautiful poem

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      1. Yeah, coming from an Asian country, the culture is very conservative. Good thing they are starting to be more accepting of newer things now but I am sure this still happens. And here in America it is moreso the religion that makes them see women that way. Sad but true…

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      2. Wooo…. I thought these things happen in Africa, been in nigeria my whole life and from the movies and things I hear, I thought anywhere outside Africa was great .

        I hope it reduces soon

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  2. This statement right here is apt; “I was taught that my body itself is a sin and I must tame it.”

    It is unfortunate that society has taught girls shame instead of pride, sorrow instead of joy and pain instead of peace.

    Thank you for sharing Funke you write so beautifully.

    Ma Sukun Mo

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